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Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

Welcome New Followers!!

I seem to have picked up a bunch of new followers recently? So I wanted to do my usual *awkward wave* and hello and make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into.

  • Jan. 2023 - NOW phdmama (NO HYPHEN!!). phdmama on AO3.
  • I’m an adult. I swear. I post NSFW. 
  • I love many ships and I read pretty widely across my chosen fandom (Drarry, FirstPrince, Buddie, Stucky, Sterek, Destial, OMG CP, Larry on occasion, just to name some). (ETA I’m so sorry folks but apparently we’re adding hockey now too - 3/2023)
  • When I love stuff, I love it hard and I get very enthusiastic. My biggest goal is to be a positive voice in the fandom, to support my fellow creators.
  • I’m a writer. Writing has brought me community and joy and friends. I’m not currently looking for concrit from folks I don’t know, as I have a strong and supportive writing community. (Note: all my fics are locked on AO3 so that you need to be logged in to see them! Nothing has been deleted!)
  • I am a huge proponent of supporting people writing exactly what they want. I love people who tag well but I understand that all fic is enter at your risk.
  • Respectfully, I prefer that people don’t “continue” or “finish” any of my writing (drabbles, vignettes) for me without talking to me first.  Thank you so much for understanding!
  • I’m a huge proponent of curating your own internet experience. It’s all opt in baby, and if you want or need to opt out, no harm no foul.
  • I have ADHD and I’m bad about remembering to queue (trying to get better), so you may just get a flurry of posts from me. Sorry.
  • I post a lot of non-fandom stuff too. Things I think are funny or thoughtful or moving. I also post things I think about. I try very hard to tag for difficult content (and I’m very willing to try and tag specifically if needed but I really cannot guarantee that, so if that’s a thing you need, this may not be a safe blog for you).  I post my own poetry. Occasionally my own photography.

So, if this sounds good, welcome and yay! I’m so glad to see you!

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chickenstuffedwithmozzarella
beardedmrbean

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Demons are real and they write for the new york times.

wizardshark

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Tags passed peer review

I mean I will say It's okay as a parent to play to your strengths I'm much much better at the adventure parenting finding something cool to do and packing us up and doing it I'm not great at the sit of the floor playing parenting what with the raging adhd and all and I'm way too much of a control freak for co-crafting but like I always interacted a ton with my guys and even now we hang a bunch
vmohlere
myclericalromance

i went to a tiny counterserve diner once and accidentally poured sugar instead of salt all over my hashbrowns and was eating them sadly anyways. the waitress took them away and started making me another one and I tried to protest, but she just snorted and said "we're not catholic here". now every time i'm doing something painful out of obligation i think about how that is not repenting, this body is not a catholic establishment, there is no nobility in suffering.

vmohlere

See also: REJECT CALVINISM

oh my god my mind is READJUSTING to some stuff new thoughts for my lil brain we're not catholic here which to be fair is very very true
elizmanderson
poetry-protest-pornography

Oh, I love this an inordinate amount.

This guy covers children's songs in the style of various artists, and he's incredible.

I'm weirdly emotional about it?


thisdiscontentedwinter

This is amazing!

nitrogennightmare

This is the exact opposite energy of the "what happens after the camera cuts and you've destroyed you labtop for 5 seconds of entertainment"

This guy not only wrote a whole song but dressed up and FILMED it! For what! For 1 and a half seconds of MY entertainment! That must have been HOURS of shooting and editing! I'm touched, this is art

this is amazing
lesbiandiaz
tripleaxeldiaz

who cares if anyone is “right” or “wrong” about buddie. like in the grand scheme of life, who literally gives a hoot whether or not you “interpret” the “evidence” “correctly” and can “see what the writers have been telling us all along”, whether it’s in favor of them or not. i believe they are the love of each other’s lives and we will get to see that come to fruition on our tv screens in primetime. you can believe that it will never happen. that’s fine!! who cares!! who. cares. live and let live and let live and for the love of GOD leave people who have different opinions than you ALONE

911 honestly one of the most important on going lessons I'm trying to learn in this life is the want/need/desire to have absolute certainty about things over which I have literally zero control so I think they're in love?? absolutely do I think it'll be canon NFC and that's okay with me! there is no thought police so think whatever you want
snowgall
paganinpurple

AO3 Etiquette

It would seem a whole new kind of AO3 reader/writer is emerging and it is becoming clear not everyone quite understands how the website community works. Here is some basic guidance on how most people expect you to go about using AO3 to keep this a fun community archive that funtions correctly:


  • Kudos is for when the story was interesting enough to make you finish reading. If it sucked or was badly written, you probably left. If you finished - you kudos.
  • If you liked it, you should comment. It can be long and detailed or a literal keysmash. Writers don't care, we just love comments.
  • No critisism unless the author has specifically asked or agreed to hear it. Even constructive critisism is a no-no unless an author note tells you it's okay. Many people write as a fun hobby or a way to cope with, among other things, insecurity. Don't ruin that for them.
  • Do not comment to ask the author to write/update something else. It's tacky and off-putting and will probably have the opposite effect than the one you want.
  • There is no algorithm, it's an archive. Use the search and filter function to add/remove the pairings/characters/tropes etc. you want to read about and it will find you the fics that fit the bill.
  • For this to work, writers must tag and rate stories. This avoids readers finding the wrong things and missing the stuff they want. I don't care how cringy that trope is in your eyes - it gets tagged.
  • Character A/Character B means a ROMANTIC or SEXUAL relationship of some kind. Character A&Character B is PLANTONIC, like friendship or family.
  • Nothing is banned. This is an implicit rule because banning one thing is a slipperly slope to banning another and another, until nothing is allowed anymore. Do not expect anyone to censor for you. Because of the tags system, you are responsible for your own reading experience.
  • People can create new chapters and sequels/fic series any time after they "complete" a story. So it's considered perfectly normal to subscribe, even to a finished story. You can even subscribe to the author instead just to cover your bases.
  • Do not repost stories or change the publishing date without an extremely good reason (like a complete top to bottom rewrite). It's an archive, not social media. No one cares what's the most recent, only what fits their tag needs.
  • Avoid deleting a story you wrote if you hate it - orphan it so others can still enjoy it, without it being connected to you anymore.
  • This is a creative fanfiction archive. No essays on your insights or theories please. There are other places for that.


I KNOW there's plenty more I missed but I'm trying to cover most of the basics that people seem to be struggling with.

I invite anyone to add to this, but please explain, don't berate.

thesevenumbrellas

People are so entitled in the comments damn like no you writer don’t have to put up with you being rude they wrote you entertainment for free

pluckyredhead

To the people in the notes who are insisting that they have the right to leave negative feedback on AO3:

What you’re not understanding is that fandom is not a service, it’s a community. I saw someone compare leaving a comment on AO3 to reviewing a product on Amazon - if you didn’t like the product, you’re going to say so. But fanworks are not products and you didn’t pay money for them. They were shared with you.

Leaving un-asked-for criticism in AO3 comments isn’t like reviewing a product you were disappointed with. It’s like going to a friend’s house when they’ve cooked a meal and telling them all the things that are wrong with the food. Sure, you can do it, but it’s rude as hell and they are probably not going to invite you to dinner again.

("Can you leave crit in comments” has been a debate as long as I’ve been in fandom, but 20 years ago the argument was “I’m helping the writer improve!” and not “I am a consumer with a right to complain.” Fandom has gotten more creepily capitalistic over the decades but jerks are evergreen, I guess.)